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Beware of Suzanne Kaestner in the Deptford/Woodbury, NJ area (verified as of 2007-2008). Birthday: June 3, 1979. For 9 months, this was my first adulthood girlfriend and she was a piece of work. ----- QUICK SUMMARY.... Dear readers: If you're searching for a lying, selfish, manipulative, heartless, diseased mind-fucker who'll drop you in a second when her head thinks something screwy -- someone who PREFERS a person to get high and drunk with for a quickie and that's all that's important in a relationship -- here's someone that you'd be proud to bring home to mother. Heads up: if anyone takes a chance with her, remember to not get too frisky during sex. We didn't have that (fortunately I learned of her STD beforehand) but she told me that once, in the heat of the moment, another person slapped her (probably her ass) and she left him. Lastly, if this is your type, remember her three main rules. Still, even if you follow them, it's no guarantee that things will be fine. #1: If you cheat, it's over (she broke that); #2) if you argue in front of her young brothers/any kids, it's over (if you even TALK, as I learned); #3) if you accuse her of cheating without confronting her, it's over (another of her rules she broke herself). Avoid this 'woman'. http://kaestner.webs.com/ ----- - She claims to be schizoaffective. Her medicine, at the time, was Risperdal. She will tell you that she has this diagnosis. That can be manageable; I blame her for being an immature person of loose morals and having a terrible personality, not a mental illness. - She never got me anything at Christmas, birthday, Valentine's day; not even a lousy card or response to a single text-message on the cell. I wasn't even permitted to visit on Christmas Day because her mom was around. - We never had sex and I was fortunate to learn of her STD beforehand. It was something easily curable but she "never got around to it". Well, at least she was honest about something (unless it was worse than what she told me and it wasn't able to be cured). - At one point, she thought I never wanted a child with her...but that was something we discussed in the beginning: I would need to wait until after marriage. At first, she thought that was good, telling a friend of her's that she was surprised. Then, to me, "I don't necessarily want kids. I already have two." Then, freaked out when she thought I never wanted a child. Make up your mind, for crying out loud! - I didn't know in the beginning that she enjoys her weed EVERY day. Early in the relationship, she told me that it was "good and healthy" that I didn't have an interest in it and that she just tried it once in while. A lie. After asking one question - "What if we need the money for something else?" - she got pissed and said that she'd "just get another job" and that she was uncomfortable around me. I never demanded that she stop, just suggested that it might be best if she cut down. She stated that it was tough being with me because "We're not compatible. Smoking, drink, drugs." With all those + her antipsychotic prescriptions, her mind's really screwed up. "It's how I was raised," she states. Isn't that lovely. Is that how she would want any children brought up? Would she be using if pregnant? Is that why her kids aren't with her now? - She said it was okay for me to attend a doctor's appt. with a pregnant friend. "I'm not the jealous type," Sue claimed. Yet she certainly is and went crazy in a couple days, even forgetting the name of that person! She called my friend's son, claiming that I was cheating on her. She wanted to get high with him and screw around as a form of revenge. Yep...she once admitted to me that this was something she's done before. The son called her a whore; she then got with some guy at least 20 years older than her - a mentally ill man. She must have gotten her screw and is surely screwing him in a different way. - I had dedicated myself to her again and gave her my heart before she freaked out. A virgin cheating on his first girlfriend with a pregnant woman? How idiotic. - At the end, when I texted her that she never loved me, she quickly calls back surprised and wondered if we were still okay. It's like she didn't even have the capacity to have any feelings or understanding that what she did was cruel. - She led me on for weeks, telling me that she wanted to "work on me before I can work on us". She said I didn't do anything wrong. Then, "I'm sorta seeing someone else. You'll get over me, sweetie." What a total insensitive bastard. I recall when I told her that she was mistaken in thinking that I never wanted a child, she knew she f'd up and said "I've got to go." and hung up. I learned that her mother was pissed with her too for doing wrong. It shouldn't have ended this way. I wanted to help; to stick by her while she's working on herself. Yet she had no intention of that. "I love my drinking and weed." she tells a friend. To her, when you love someone "you take the good and the bad"; that's true, but she's just hurting herself. I did have love for her, but she doesn't even know what that is. I guess it was all just my first-time feelings, but she was never good for my own mental health. She was dishonest with me since the beginning and didn't consider my feelings at all. She tried to turn things around and make it seem like it was my fault. She gave up on our potential marriage and family over shitty false ideas and her inability to compromise a bit. I'm glad I'm free from that; it would have been worse, especially if there was a marriage and children involved. Right now, I'm enjoying the company of many women and hoping to find a real person interested in a real relationship.

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